Wow! My very first Blog post! I know it may not seem like a huge deal but TRUST ME! It TOTALLY IS!! LOL! I have STRUGGLED for MONTHS trying to figure out what exactly I want to Blog about. Massage? Mommyhood? Wellness? All good ideas but none of it was JUMPING at me..until today.
This post is basically an introduction to what this blog will be about. I figure the best way for me to express this to you is by telling you the story of HOW this blog came to be. Here we go…
This morning, I was so excited to start blogging and when I get excited about anything business related, I watch Chocolat. If you haven’t seen it yet, it has been out WAY too long for me to feel guilty about spoiling it for you. So here is your warning: SPOILER ALERT! Now let me tell you WHY I LOVE this movie. Anyone who knows me knows I LOOOOOOOVE Johnny Depp. And yes, of course that’s part of it. But really, he’s the cherry on top. Imagine that! In a nutshell the movie is about a single mother, Vivianne, who is also a business owner. She’s a Chocolatier specifically. She is up against some very traditional people who judge her harshly for being 1)a single mother with an illegitimate child, 2) not a church-goer, and 3) a woman who marches to the beat of her own drum. Now, while this movie is set in 1960, it still feels like some things never change. I’ll come back to that. Along her journey she befriends a woman named Josephine, who is pretty much an outcast. Turns out Josephine is in an abusive marriage. Vivianne helps Josephine find confidence in herself and helps her find the courage to leave her husband Serge. In hopes that you will watch the film yourself, I will leave it there for now.
So, as I am going about my morning, I am Facebooking and come across a post by my friend, we’ll call Miss O. Miss O posted, quite lightheartedly at the simple joy of having an only child. I commented about how much I couldn’t agree more. Diaper free is the way for me! LOL! Then this sparked a whole slew of opinions, mostly supportive, and all well-intended. Miss O’s brother summed it up perfectly when he expressed his gratitude for being her sibling and couldn’t imagine his life without her and how complete his life feels with her in it. SUUUUPER SWEET!! He then ended it by saying,”that said, I think EVERYONE, including myself, should respect your decision.” Now, to me, that would have been the perfect way to end that thread. Well, not everyone agreed. Someone commented that Miss O’s son “deserves” a sibling. Now, this totally struck a nerve with me because I hear it ALL. THE. TIME. So, I PM’d Miss O and we had a long, pleasant vent session about how we respect everyone’s choices and how we wish others would do the same for US.
Here’s the thing, no one else knows my reasons for making the decision to not have another child except for me and my husband. And even those who do still feel the need to debate my reasons. My reasons are VERY personal and maybe someday I’ll be brave enough to share them with you all. But for now, suffice it to say that, no one knows what decisions are better for YOUR life than YOU. And guess what? That goes for me, too. I know what my family needs more than anyone else on this planet. I don’t want you telling me what you think I should do with my life, my family, or my uterus anymore than you want me to tell you what to do with yours.
So, now the gears in my head are turning…as I get ready to leave to grab some much needed coffee, I am about to turn off the TV, when I notice it’s a very pivotal scene in the movie. Serge decides he wants to hurt Josephine again. After weeks of her rehabilitating and finding her footing at Vivianne’s house. This bastard breaks Vivianne’s door down and attempts to hurt Josephine with a vengeance! I won’t tell you how it ends (sorry). But it got me to thinking about what a wonderful friend Vivianne is. Vivianne is a relatively new person in Josephine’s life and even though she knew about the almost definite consequences of her sticking her neck out for Josephine, she didn’t hesitate. She didn’t hesitate to take her into her home and even give her a job. And Josephine…I thought of how amazing she turned out to be. When you first “meet” her, you might think she’s pitiful. But here she is, standing on her own two feet, fighting for her life-in every sense of the word! I’m amazed by her. I have my own experiences with Domestic Violence (I’ll save that for another day) and I know how hard it is to leave. It’s hard to understand at times but it’s not my place to judge. It’s my place to help and be supportive and loving unconditionally. There’s so much more to be said but for now let’s wrap this up with what this blog will be about…
Supporting my sisters. I don’t say this lightly, and it could be because I’m PMS’ing but I am in tears at this very moment. LOL! (I’m a crybaby, BTW.) This business of mine is about so much more than massage. It’s about caring for YOU. It’s about supporting YOU. If I am the ONLY source of TLC you get, then I want to make sure that YOU get the best TLC I can possibly give. YOU deserve to be UPLIFTED, CHERISHED, and CELEBRATED!! YOU are incredible! So what does this have to do with my friend’s post and Chocolat? Well, there’s plenty of examples in there of different people judging and/or tearing down! We have enough hurdles to overcome. Why add negativity and finger wagging? We should be building each other UP not tearing each other down! My goodness, it’s never ending!
“When are you going to settle down?”
“When will you have a baby?”
“When will you have a sibling for your child?”
“When will you go for that girl/boy?”
“She is too fat to be wearing that!”
“Real men want meat not bones!”
SAHM vs. Working Moms…
SHEESH! Will it EVER end?? I don’t know. But I can tell you WHERE it ends. HERE. If you pay attention closely, you will also see wonderful examples of support. WE NEED more Viviannes & Josephines! I want to create a space where you can come to just be YOU. Where you can learn ways to be a better you. Mind, body, & soul. One can not function properly without the other. And we as women are no different. We are ALL connected. Just like that pain in your shoulders is directly connected to the stress in your mind and that burden in your heart. We ALL have our own path to walk. No better, no worse than anyone else’s. We need to be kinder to each other. In order to do that, we must first learn to be kind to OURSELVES. I have no control over anyone but ME. So I will use my little corner of the world to spread this message of love, kindness, and support for all women but ESPECIALLY mothers.
If you hung in this long, know that I appreciate you hanging in there. It is a very passionate post and was really hard to summarize what I feel is going to be a powerful blog. And hey, give me a break, it’s my first post, k? LOL! If you enjoyed this post (and I hope you did), SHARE IT! And if you feel so inclined, share your thoughts in the comments section! *Bonus points if you share one thing YOU will change to make this world a more woman friendly place!
Till next time,
*Disclaimer: Bonus points are just imaginary & not really good for anything but your ego.
Priscilla Davis is a mom to amazing Princess Emma and a (mostly) loving wife. By trade she is a talented and passionate Massage Therapist. She is an old soul who believes in helping people, especially mothers, live their best lives possible.